August 30, 2017

Why Do I Keep Relapsing?

Everything was going perfect for a month or so after treatment, but then things started to change and eventually you relapsed. Maybe this happened to you a couple of times and you’re not sure why.

Recovery is a journey and treatment is only the first step, the real road to recovery begins after treatment when you’re responsible for taking care of yourself again.

Below are some of the reasons why you might keep relapsing:

You stopped going to meetings

Just because going to meetings is a little bit uncomfortable for you doesn’t mean that you should stop going. One of the most common reasons why people in recovery keep relapsing is because they stop going to meetings. You only need to go to meetings once a week to keep yourself immersed in the culture of recovery.

By consistently spending time with other people in recovery you can be reminded of why you got treatment in the first place. You may not like some of the stories you hear at your meetings, but those stories are beneficial in the way that force you to remember the dark sides of addiction.

You keep thinking of the “Good Ol’ Days”

You might be thinking to yourself about how great it was when you first started using drugs or the constant weekends of drinking at parties and wish you could go back to those days. There were times at the beginning when there were no consequences with your addiction, you still had your money, your health was great, and times were good, but that was unsustainable.

There is no way to use drugs and consistently consume alcohol without them starting to affect you and those around you negatively at some point. It doesn’t matter how rich or poor you are or what your situation is, abusing substances will never help you live your best life. The “Good Ol’ Days” were never good, the consequences just hadn’t hit you yet and now that they have there’s no going back to the beginning.

You need to stop looking into the past and look towards the future.


You haven’t truly changed your mindset

Anyone that has ever been through treatment knows that recovery begins in the mind, to truly change who you are you must first change your mindset. If you’re still complaining and arguing with the people around you then it is likely that you’ll get angry  or frustrated and that might drive you to your addiction. There are two elements of your mindset/behavior that you have to work on to create change in your life, and those are the thoughts you have and the words you speak. 

To change your thoughts from negative ones to positive ones you should try to read motivational books, watch inspiring movies, and surround yourself with overall positive influences. By doing this you will gather quotes and stories that speak to you and can be referred back to when you’re feeling low. When one of those relapse thoughts occur immediately purge it from your mind, as soon as those thoughts come around think about something else, even look around and start noticing your environment. The key is to get out of your head and not let that feeling of wanting to relapse take over.

The next thing you need to do is to be very careful about the words you speak for they mean more than you think. What we speak typically tends to influence our mindset and when we hear our own words we believe them just as if anyone else said it. Speak positive things about yourself even when you don’t feel like it and watch how things change.


You’re still hanging out with negative people

It is very hard to change when you’re flooded by negative people, you need to hang around positive, happy people that are wanting to see you succeed. Happy people don’t want to see you fail, happy people want to see you be happy as well. Who you spend time with is who you will be most like.

This quote is entirely true when you think about it. Test this quote by looking at the five people you spent the most time with during your time and addiction and really see the impact they had on you. Notice how fitness enthusiasts typically have friends who like working out, people that read probably have 5 close friends that like reading, and an addict typically spends a lot of time with other addicts.

You need to eliminate these people from your lives even if they’ve been a long time friend or family member, you need to tell them that you’re not the person you used to be and that you’re going to change with them or without them.



If you’ve relapsed and are motivated to get back into treatment or if you are someone looking to get treatment for the first time call us at (877) 212-8299 . We are available 24/7 and one of our treatment specialists will be there to answer your call and determine which of our treatment centers is the perfect fit for you.

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